I attended a fabulous seminar this week run by the inspirational Debbie Gray, a friend and colleague who has in no small part played a role in getting me where I am today in terms of my professional knowledge and passion for what I do.

Many times we can go to our wardrobe and ponder the age old question of ‘what can I wear?’ even though we have oodles of clothes to choose from.  Many image consultants will tell you that fit, fabric, colour and style personality are key words when working out what suits and what doesn’t but I always knew there was more to it than that, otherwise, it would be easy. Just learn the rules and get on with the practice. Obviously the occasion is important and so is your audience’s expectations – it’s unlikely you would wear jeans to pitch for a huge piece of corporate business for example  – but there’s still more to understand about why something works one day but not another.

As women of a certain age, we probably have more hormonal fluctuations than most of our counterparts. Some days we feel happy and others sad and yet we have no real clue about the cause behind these changes in emotions. What I do know is that it’s crucial that our clothing supports these moods and Debbie’s workshop yesterday absolutely confirmed this.

For example, let’s say you are very bright (complexion and personality) and your favourite colour is fuschia pink. Is this what will support you if you are feeling under the weatherand a little vulnerable and curling up on the couch is what you crave. You need some tenderness, a huge hug and a cuddly garment to wrap yourself in and bright pink may not provide the answer you’re looking for at this time. I have a huge, fluffy cream sweater that fulfils this role for me. Cream? Yes, cream and you’re right, cream should not look great with someone with cool colouring but the texture and the feel – yummy. I’m nurtured and cozy.

So when you’re going through your wardrobe looking for something to wear, take a moment to actually unearth the mood you’re in or perhaps contemplate the mood you want to be in – sexiness isn’t the prerogative of the young you know!